Thinking you can beat moral failure on your own
is like holding an umbrella to protect you from flying pianos.
What does your Accountability Network look like?
I help leaders conquer burnout.
Ashamed to say it: at this point...zero. It looks blank. Except for Covenant Eyes there is no one around.
Posted by: bill (cycleguy) | November 04, 2010 at 05:12 AM
How would you like to change that? What would be your first step?
Posted by: Scott Couchenour | November 04, 2010 at 09:20 AM
I would like to find men who would be my band of brothers. I am taking some guys through Wild at Heart right now and I know how important it is but to "trust" the guys is tough, especially as the pastor. I told them this past week when we talked about the poser. I take a chance saying I am one for "fear" they would reject me and therefore choose to go somewhere else. Does that make sense?
Posted by: bill (cycleguy) | November 04, 2010 at 09:30 AM
Definitely one was to look at it!
This is the first year that I've been serious about accountability. I've made it a point to seek out men in my life...rather than wait for God to miraculously have someone call me and say "hey, I'd like to be your accountability partner."
It takes effort and it requires an investment and transparency. But it is SO worth it. Not only for the encouragement, but for the assurance that if things start getting out of wack, someone is there to reel you in.
Posted by: Tony Alicea | November 04, 2010 at 01:00 PM
I hear from more pastors who say the same thing you're saying, Bill. It seems a pastor's accountability network must at least involve non-parishioners.
Posted by: Scott Couchenour | November 04, 2010 at 02:39 PM
Tony - I appreciate your insight.
Question for you (and any others reading this comment string): What do you look for when you seek out accountability partners?
Posted by: Scott Couchenour | November 04, 2010 at 02:40 PM
Definitely a man (that should go without saying). I look for someone who is willing to take a risk, is not a "yes" man (will confront me if necessary), and has time for mutual sharing. I am not looking for someone who either thinks they can "fix" me or someone who judges me. Nor am I looking for a one-sided deal. It goes both ways.
Posted by: bill (cycleguy) | November 04, 2010 at 07:29 PM
Good things to look for. I especially Luke to co-active method you mention. No one with all the answers ready to fix me. But one beggar telling another beggar where to find bread.
Posted by: Scott Couchenour | November 04, 2010 at 10:45 PM